I wake up, my debt is all paid off, my bank account is full, my relationships with my family are healthy, and I’m able to travel anywhere in the world.
reblog for this ultimate fantasy life to come true
“She makes you think of the sun. When it rises, hitting your skin. You feel warmth in your veins for the first time in a long time. And when it sets… there’s blue, purple, orange and yellow filling my bones and in that moment you freeze, overflowing with all the hope for life you have ever had. She makes you think of the rain. You’re in bed with your mind drifting off back to days you don’t want to remember, but then there’s rain. You run out the sliding door, glasses misty with raindrops and you remember the days you’d sing Sinatra at the top of your lungs, socks soaking not caring if you wake up with a cold the next day. She makes you think of books. Walking along the beach to the shell shop, where books are staked to ceiling. Pages that’s been touched by hundreds, infused with tears of joy and heart break. Getting lost between spines rather than yourself. You know it’s never been easy to speak about anything with anyone, but you have to admit to yourself that talking to her is like playing guitar…once you start you never want to stop. The small things, the big things. Her favourite colour to what breaks her heart. Making sure she smiles at least once a day has become important, making sure she she knows shes not alone is important. Something happened in my past that made yellow leave a bitter taste in my month, but the more I get to know this angel, the more I’ve started to love yellow again.”
You’ve taken the time beforehand to think about what your goal is (Are you trying to be right? Or are you trying to understand each other?)
You do your best to not hurt each other with your words, because you’re trying to understand each other.
You address your feelings without accusing each other (“I feel ___ when ___ happens”…. NOT “You never ____!”) because no one likes being accused. Even if it’s an accurate accusation.
You verbally remind each other that you’re arguing for the sake of understanding each other, and NOT just to be right/stir up some drama/take out frustration.
You both listen to each other’s points. Listen fully. Express your thoughts fully.
The argument finishes with you both feeling respected.
Ideally you come away with 1) a compromise/decision, 2) a better understanding of each other, 3) (ideally) more love and respect for each other.
